Love is

I've been thinking over the weekend (not like I've not stop thinking about it) and was wondering how to define love or in broader terms a relationship.

A quick summary would be: love is learning to love an imperfect stranger.

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Progression by what measures

There's this ex collegue who's slightly younger than me. And now I've got word that she managed to get a job at a company, who deals with high net worth clients and she's now a manager. I'm guessing 1 day, I might have to report to her.

Personally, in terms of underwriting skills, I do not think I'm worse than her? I can't say for certain cause we've never compare notes or have work under the same person to make a comparision. But taking into consideration that she use to help out with banca underwriting while I do group and individual life. My exposure is more than hers. The only thing that i do not do currrently is financial underwriting. But she's doing ALU and maybe that makes a difference. I dare not do it for I need to study the human antomy.

So that's a measurement of progression by 1 measure. I'm still at the same job, with no promotion 3 years on. But I'm happy.

Sure there's that someone that's like a torn in the flesh that's half pulled out. But to be realistic, there's no perfect envoirment. This gets really close to the dream situation. Anyway the torn should right about go in a month's time.

I've got my right and left angels to make me smile everyday. 2 generals in front to support me. 1 joker 2 seats away. There's more that I could ask for, for sure. Better pay! So measure this progression with when i first started 3 years ago and more or less ran solo.

Making the 1st move

I don't ask people out, I wait. A few reasons I can think of.

1) People have better plans than to go out with me. I'm not the high of the party. That's not my character. (I'm kind of boring)
2) I've no idea where to go or what to do. So how am I going to ask someone out?
3) I don't want come across over earnest or too desperate or whatever.

Othertimes I wonder if it's really that hard to ask people out. Why should it be that hard.

THEN

I'm remined that almost everytime I initiate something, it flops. So why bother.

Metamorphosis ramble

The word just came into my mind and I so need to blog. Or rather ramble. As usual there’s more on my plate of thoughts than there should be. There’s only 1 thing I’ll say in return. Maybe 2. 1)I can’t help it. 2)It’s just me. So then actually it’s 1 – I can’t help it, it’s just me.

So all that random semi process thought came to the word: metamorphosis. Unlike the caterpillar, which has pretty much a fixed timing (maybe +/- a week or 2), the human is constantly evolving. Situations, people cause direct and indirect changes and it affects us and we react and in the process learn or change ourselves. So really, I don’t know who has it better, the caterpillar or us. The caterpillar does it all at 1 shot, and the changes are lock in. While we have to go through the endless process and often more than not, we don’t get it right the first time.