Going back to the last blog. That was how i felt about relationships but wasn't entirely certain if its was true. True as in logical. And on 31.1.11 I did a Gallup Strengthfinder test. Which when i got the results back, the elaboration of each strength was correct but it was unexpected in the sense that no other test did tell me the same thing.
So a bit more on the test, there are 34 strengths and elaboration for the top 5. 1 of the strength is call Relator. Details below:
Relator describes your attitude toward your relationships. In simple terms, the Relator theme pulls you toward people you already know. You do not necessarily shy away from meeting new people—in fact, you may have other themes that cause you to enjoy the thrill of turning strangers into friends—but you do derive a great deal of pleasure and strength from being around your close friends. You are comfortable with intimacy. Once the initial connection has been made, you deliberately encourage a deepening of the relationship. You want to understand their feelings, their goals, their fears, and their dreams; and you want them to understand yours. You know that this kind of closeness implies a certain amount of risk—you might be taken advantage of—but you are willing to accept that risk. For you a relationship has value only if it is genuine. And the only way to know that is to entrust yourself to the other person. The more you share with each other, the more you risk together. The more you risk together, the more each of you proves your caring is genuine. These are your steps toward real friendship, and you take them willingly.
Im prolly slight different to different people. for instance, some people think i'm creative which i don't really think so. I've got an interest in design and all but that doesn't mean I'm creative. Maybe it's good marketing on my part. But back to the above, it reasserts what i thought was correct in the previous post. Its reassuring to have gotten that. Even though, yes i should not base my whole life on 1 test i did, but then again, we eventually aim for the highest possible education we can get and somehow or rather our whole career/life is base on that top piece of qualification.
The intimacy part is up for debate, since i shy/run/speed away from any boy-boy relationship. Talking about the deliberately encouraging a deepening of relationship. This is the part that kills me. Refer to previous post, otherwise i'll just be rambling what i rambled before Again. I might not be that forthcoming with the sharing part but thats cause I've been proven quite correctly on more than a few times, that people tend to be I focus, so hey, as long as that works and deepens the r/s, okay!
